doyleblackwells:

honestly can we talk about how bad it hurts to grow up as the ‘bad influence’ kid,,,, cuz i s2g i was really one of the best kids, i had a problem with talking during class (autism) but i hated getting in trouble and did anything i could to avoid it, i was polite and respectful towards adults even when they werent to me, i was the one keeping my friends in line half the time. but my mom was a single mother, two kids, both with different dads, and we were poor. my friends parents straight up hated me. i was constantly having crying children give me the somber “my parents said i cant hang out with you because you’re a bad influence” speech. Constantly. these parents were forcing their classism on their children, and it was so fucking sad. i spent my whole life wondering why they assumed i was this bad person, why they thought id hurt their kids or make them do bad things, when one time i almost wet my pants in class because my teacher was on the phone and i didnt want to interrupt her to ask to go to the bathroom. they made me feel like i had done something wrong at age 5 and onwards, just by existing. it left this huge imprint on me, and it was all just judgmental assumptions. 

tldr, if you have kids, please for the love of god dont judge their friends. unless you are genuinely concerned for their safety, dont restrict their friend circle, and dont say anything that your kid could repeat to their friends, bc that can scar children for life. having an adult believe you’re a bad person is damaging, its really not worth those five seconds of ~PTA mom whos better than everyone else~ fame.